Dude, I am so sorry you are going through this, it must be very difficult. But I say stick to your guns. She chose to have the affair, she should have to face the consequences. There is too much non-accountability in this world today. Is reconciliation still on the table? If so, then that is her choice. Work on the marriage, or accept responsibility for her actions and move on.
Me-40 W-41 Together-10 M-8 S-6 S-4 Bomb 5/08 Bomb 10/08 Thought things were better, was wrong. Still living together Wife doesn't think she will ever love me again.
