I think there may be at least two options here.....either her going to meet OM and getting "shocked" into reality of what he truly is and feels about her......or have some type of health intervention.
Sandi,
Was talking to my W tonight and asked her about a prior comment she had previously made to me: "I'm not interested in being M to a Boy Scout". (Recall that we were previously discussing why many WAWs seek out OM the exact opposite as their H.) I know- I shouldn't have asked- but my S had a scout meeting last night and it was on my mind.
My W responded by stating that she meant that she didn't like being M to "Mr. Perfect", specifically someone who thinks they (me) are better than her (W). I asked for specific examples of what made her feel that way and she basically broke it down for me by mentioning 1. I've talked down to her when I'm really angry in the past (this is true), 2. I have strong convictions about right/wrong and usually "win" any arguments with her (this is true), 3. I take pride in holding myself to high standards(this is true) and 4. that she feels that my love for her is conditional (not accurate from my perspective).
I told W that I respected her feelings but that it was never my intention to convey that I thought I was better than her to her. (I do NOT feel I am better than my W, just different than her.)
Just thought I'd share this with you as it relates to how my W finds OM so appealing.
Talk to you soon.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
