I don't like the 'sound' of some of your last post...but I also THINK I understand a teeny bit of where his 'abruptness' may be coming from.
Our WAS truly do resent having been 'caught'...even when they begin to come to grips with the trauma they've caused us, they hate like hell to have to deal with THEIR guilt and OUR pain at the same time.
They use the SAME anger to 'keep us in our place' when they feel we're pushing them to hard during reconciliation, that they used to bolster their self-talk when justifying their affairs.
If they can keep US the bad guys, they don't have to feel like poop about themselves 24/7.
Your H's keeping his OW around the office is a big NO NO.
Doesn't matter if his relationship with her now is strictly professional...SHE needs to hit the road. Keeping "you" around didn't keep him from cheating so how is keeping that whore around going to keep him from cheating? As good ole Dick Cheney says, "The wheel has turned and it's time for (her) to go !"
Is YOUR name on the biz? If so, why not waltz yourself into the CPAs office and tell him you want to have a look at the books? If your a 'partner' in the biz, you don't need Hs permission to do that.
If you think H hasn't told OW that's he's back home, why don't you? Next time you call the office and she answers the phone say, "Miss Piggy (or whatever her real name is) tell my H to give me a call please, there are a few things I need him to pick up from the store on his way home tonight. Thanks."
If your H owns the biz...how about some new decor? New wallpaper for his office? New carpet for the reception area. Begin stopping by unexpectedly to size up the ideas you have for "sprucing up the place". MAKE her cringe at the knowledge that YOU may pop in anytime, YOU have claimed his office as YOUR place too.
You've said you're ready to rumble...well take the gloves off girl.
T2
