I have to agree with the above posters. Let it go. It hurts like hell, but trying to control H is not worth it either. You won't be able to control him or what he does and the sooner you accept that the better it will be. Let the kids meet her. Talk to him about what the therapist said and hope that he takes it into consideration, but understand that in his mind he is going to think that you are the one ultimately behind this. It is you trying to keep him from his kids. It is you who is poisoning the kids against him and new GF. All the bad things in the world can be attributed to you and only you. It's ludicrous, I know, but that's where he is. Surprise him and let the kids go and wish them all well and tell them to have a wonderful trip. Best thing you can do right now. If she is not such a great woman and your H is an arse when he is with her, well trust me the kids will pick up on it right away and they won't want to go back.
