Her interactions with the OM have definitely subsided and have been curtailed, but there is still contact. He definitely initiates contact with her (text msgs here and there), and a couple of weeks back she initiated contact after snooping through some of my email and found out that I was researching his criminal record.
Water under the bridge now I guess and I just need to mush on.
I am trying to strike an incredibly delicate balance with all this. My strategy is to try to get her interested enough in the marriage through my own DB/GAL/self-improvement, while her contact with OM is more subdued so that she may actually notice. This hopefully feeds on itself and creates a cycle where W has less motivation to interact with him as a result. If I can sustain this kind of cycle I might be able to coax her into MC or a workshop in the near future like I mentioned in the previous post.
She seems to think she can be 'friends' with OM. SIL told her just last week that this is never possible and I had told her long ago. I think she knows it deep down. She knows my position on this - I demanded no contact and didn't get it unfortunately.
W is being really pleasant tonight after I got home from work. I took S12 and his friend to see Harry Potter. Before we left she was initiating conversation, offering to do some clothes shopping for our trip for me, and otherwise seems like she is in a good mood. A definite turn over the past couple of weeks. I hope it lasts - we'll see how she is over the next couple of days on our trip.
ME/XW:47 S21, D19, S15, S14 M:21 T:26 W moved 6/10 I filed 7/10 D final 4/12 remarried 8/12 W wants to R 12/10 and 4/11 but I decline
