This is tough for me to say, and please know that it comes from a very biased mind (when it comes to these things).
I'm NOT that comfortable with SOME of your H's responses. Other things (like the book reading!) look just great.
First...about the check...I dunno, are you satisfied he's telling the truth? I know CJ blew some financial stuff past me that didn't sound quite "right" but I ignored it at the time.
When CJ was still "seeing" the OW after I thought it was over, he too made comments like feeling I was his "parole officer". This was in response to my asking if he'd call when he was staying out past 2 a.m.!
The clothes...well okay..did SHE buy them for him?? With her own money??? If it was his money, then DO get them back, give them to the needy or something.
About his reasoning for keeping her at work? WEAK and selfish. What do you think Dr. Phil would say to him on this? "What the hell are you THINKING!?"
Fine, how long before he's "proved to himself" that he can work with her and NOT have an R? I think it's time he stepped up and DID do something for YOU....get the OW OUT OF YOUR LIVES>
Sorry if I sound a little harsh here, not even sure why!
