WAW and 4 kids

[Deep]

Well, I think no matter how small, it is a good sign that your W recognises staying "just" for the kids is unsustainable and yet still "hangs around". She's confused and lost, and at this point OM is an important drug in her life support system. It's such a damn hard line to draw, hoping she does not get drawen deeper into the abyss while she deals wit hthe internal struggle. My W told me later that she knew she had to end it, but she could not see where to draw the strength from to do so.

I guess that's where the support bit comes in. But the longer OM hangs around, the higher the risk her dependency on him will grow.

Re the part where I told her the OM lines, yeah, you could see it really hit home. Like I said, W is a smart woman, and although delusional, she was still not 100% stupid. The usual predictable lines about OMW not understanding him, how they fell apart, how 2 friends could start connecting, letting the "what ifs" grow more strident, the token "advice" on how to improve the marriage. All spoken over alcohol if possible. A predictable predator attempt. I actually playacted the part a bit, and ended with wondering what OMW's side of the story was, seeing as how she had 3 kids with him and stuck by him when he wasn't quite so rich.

Hoping your trip goes well ...