Hello everybody,

I had a fairly long conversation with H yesterday. I had not read Jackie's post but I thought it was a good opportunity to bring up all the things that have been eating me from the inside in the last few weeks. I was not a huge success but since he did not storm out of the house and he fixed me breakfast this morning (one of his LLs) it was not a failure either.

1. About the check: he said it was a left over from the attempt to re-finance his office building. May or may not be, but that is all I am going to get, so I'd better take it.

2. About the clothes: He said he has not brought them home because he did not buy them and does not want to wear them again. He offered to bring them today and throw them away immediately and I accepted (I can give them away myself and that way ensure OW knows he is home!).

3. About working with OW: He said he does not want this (the A) to happen ever again and he has her still there because he wants to prove to himself that he can work with someone and not have an unappropriate R with her. That he sees my point, but he is doing this for him, not for me or OW.

4. About the money thing: He agreed it was difficult for me not to know what was going on but he promised he would take me to see his CPA and get a clear explanation of where he stands financially. We did not address removing OW from having signature in the bussiness account (but will, later )

5. About his side of the sitch so far: He says it is easy for him to do the little details that help me feel more secure, but he feels pressured to be home early and to let me know immediately where he is after 5 pm. He feels as if he has to clock in or something. He thinks I am constantly watching him and that is making me stressed and prone to distractions (and he does have some point, though he does not realize how much worse it could be if I did not have you guys )

6. As to R talks: He agreed to discuss the book, but had thought I meant I'd read it first, then he would. He had not realized I was proposing to have both read one chapter at a time and then discuss it. He agreed to do that, though 'not today'.

Am I forgetting anything? What do you think?


"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"