And yes, writing it down helps. It makes me confront my feelings and not let them fester inside. If I do not write them down they start to take a life of their own and haunt me, and they tend to color everything I do or feel.
Once I have written what I feel I get a clearer picture of what I want to change. Not that that helps to change it... Weird, ain't it?
How I wish Patience were my middle name...
For a less biased perspective, lets review my goals:
Quote: 1. OW will no longer work for him by Xmas (major must: a sine qua non)
2. He will keep me involved in his office (I have no intention of letting this happen again).
3. We will talk about each other feelings and plans (he is getting better at it: just last night he asked me to take him to the airport on Fri for a same day bussiness trip; before he would not have told me or just mention it at the last minute).
4. We will spend 15 hours a week together (no work, no kid, only fun): we are doing about 6-10 now which is a huge improvement
5. He will be able to tell me things he does not like without feeling he is letting me down (getting better).
1 and 2: absolutely no progress so far. They are the major reason I have poor PMA
3. Getting slowly better. A few plans trickled and we include each other in work activities.
4. Definitely good. I think we are pretty close to the 15 hours now
5. Also slightly better. I asked him yesterday whether he was going to go to the counsellor anymore and he said 'no'. He kind of spoilt it later by trying to hint that he'd call her next week but it is progress. Before he'd have lied.
See, I do have some perspective
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
And the hug 
