Hey Trusting, Mach1 doesn't have a thread here, but he's surviving MLC right now. He is pretty well versed on this. I am not sure how many ledges I've bumped up against that he has talked me down from. I'm in that angry stage. My H finally says the words I want to hear and I feel relief but oddly enough or maybe not so odd, I did hit that angry place. I'm angry about the crap he put me through, I'm angry my marriage feels a little less special because he let someone else run around in it.....and sometimes I think it's worse that this OW turned out to be the piece of crap I always said she was....lots and lots of irony here for me. I finally hear the words I want to come home and I want to haul back and kick him in the jewels. But at the same time I know I'm not done yet....not by a long shot. I expect we'll be at this stage for a long time yet, and it scares the crap out of me, but we could fall back away from martial progress. But yes, brace yourself. The one thing I would do again.... I would work even harder to detach even sooner than I was able to. It took my mother's fortune teller and my mother's "life is only complicated if you think too much" approach to logic to get me to really detach and really do for me and my S. AND of course, THAT's when I saw true true interest in my H related to us. Go figure.
