Hi Saffie, OM said he didn't want his new GF to know anything about what's happening in his apartment and he's taking her away for a few days. His GF knows about this "crazy woman" he was involved with before but apparently has no idea W is in town.
I have tried to track down this woman myself and tell her what's going on but haven't been able to (I only know her first name).
It's only a matter of time before this GF susses what's happening. If she's like most women I know she will intuitively detect that OM is preoccupied about something. OM ought to know better but then, his moral compass did permit him to **** a pregnant and married woman.
Did a search on FB for "Saffie" and couldn't find you anywhere; there's a few Saffies on there.
Me: 46 W: 46 T: 23 M: 20 DS12 DD11 DS5
W left: 01/28/08 Discovered OM: 02/26/08 W back for 9 days: 04/08 W returned 05/21/08 EA/PA - 01/08-07/09 W's MLC 2008-2014 (realised this much later)
There's an angel called gabriel....well I am the female version, (le). You should always underscore me. I am not always right, but I am always wright. My mail is always HOT and I am not com.mon as I live in the UK. I think you know where my 'at' is.
I am taking my Blackberry on holiday so I will not be incommunicado.
Just tell me who you are in the subject line as I am careful about who I take stuff from.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Yeah how did she get into the apartment? Did he let her in before he left? Also why won't the police remove her? Just cause you have a key means nothing if the owner/leasor states that she is not welcome. Something fishy on that.
Also now that OM said I don't want you...go away...you get the email from wifey. I guess she will go back to good old fall back and Plan B buy GH. I will just drown him in sex like usual and he will be OK again.
I am glad to see that you are getting out there, and deciding what you want in life. However, PLEASE stop talking about yourself the way you do. There is NO reason to be ashamed of yourself. NONE! You married a woman you loved, and loved her. Yes, you may have turned a blind eye, or even allowed things to go on because you loved her and hoped for the best in her to return. What's wrong with that? Be proud that you tried so hard to find good in her, that you were hoping the woman you married would come back. I see nothing wrong in anything you did in trying to save your marriage.
You may have been deceived and tricked, but none of that falls on you! This is what was done TO you, and how you proceed from here is on you. She was the one who turned her back on someone who would have been there, who would have loved and supported her to the ends of the earth I imagine. Shame on HER, not you!
Just had to say that.
Keep looking for the positive. Even when it gets rough, you made it, and now is when the rest of your life starts. I'm also sure at some point it was good, so it wasn't a total loss, just didn't end the way you would have liked, and again, its HER loss.
All quiet at the moment. It does feel good not to have to deal with my W.
I have realised that what I'm most sad about is leaving our home. I feel I have spent the last 18 months grieving the loss of the marriage we had am ready to move on. Sad in a resigned way, but ready to move on. I can't do this anymore.
