Yup, it is. No one wants to suck or be considered a crappy person.
Keep this in mind too as you go through this.....there were days when things were fine with H and I then later at night I wondered who this alien was. Later come to find out his OW from his EA would "blame" me for just about everything.....she convinced him that I was the reason they couldn't be together....she didn't want to work her life around his EX or child. But for the longest time, it was only the EX she didn't want to deal with.....whatever, she was yanking his chain pretty hard the whole time and was using me as a scapegoat to keep him at arms length. BUT my point being, she would get him worked up and convince him I was the issue so he'd get mad at me. It's laughable. And now he realizes what a schmuck he was but it took her making him a fool for him to see it. I couldn't tell him anything. I was the LAST person who could talk reason to him. So I stopped. I waited and fortunately for me, she did make him look like a complete A$$ and he regrets not listening to me and some of his other friends who warned him. But this is their journey, they have to feel the bumps and pot holes. So in the meantime you do your thing. Set you boundaries that you and the kids can live with that protect you. Do some things for you....and I would like to be bold and suggest you tell her you want one night a week for you, where you go out and do what you want to do....and if that means coming home at 2am so be it.
What was your contribution to this wall your marriage has hit?
