Post "divide our stuff up meeting" update ... We're supposed to meet at 2. I show up at 2:05 and there's a guy who is just leaving. He's young, maybe in college. He's clearly there just for my benefit. There are no introductions, but she does say "say hi to your mom for me" as he's leaving. Running into her on Friday with my friend has clearly gotten to her.
We talk about who gets/wants what. I'm being accommodating but not a pushover. I offer to have her come and get her stuff out before I move. The vehicles are our item of contention, and I'm taking the one we both want. She won't ask for it. I did good at being mysterious. She wants to know where I'm going so she can forward the paperwork. She's asked twice now, so it must be bugging her. I said a few times, "alot has changed since you last talked to me three months ago." It's going smoothly, until I say, "regardless of moves out first you'll need a key to get your stuff." W: I have my key from before. M: You'll need a new one. W: What? You changed the locks? Nice. M: Yes she starts to cry a little, then is furious W: When did you do that? M: October W: Were you ever going to tell me? M: I hadn't gotten to that point yet. W: It doesn't matter. So ... it was hot for a little while. I didn't explain. I didn't say anything really. She keeps trying to talk about signing papers and everything else. I kept to the gameplan, we're only talking about the move.
There's a lull, so I'm the first to say "well, we're done. I've got things to do" and i get up. As we're leaving, I comment on something stupid and she starts joking around with me. For a few minutes we're just like it always was. As we're outside she asks if I rode down to meet her .... i say no, bye, then walkaway ... all mysterious like.
I'm feeling good about the encounter. Nothing I did today was what she was expecting. I'm mysterious. I didn't have to be jerk to do it. I was baited several times, kept my cool and just let it roll.
