he was back, i think

[lost-n-Iowa]

I agree that it is better that you don't talk to him if you can help it. And when you do have to talk to him just keep it about business and nothing personal except your son.

I sure hope the bank goes in your favor and puts it on hold. That will releive some of the pressure on you.

Do you guys have Child Support Recovery up there? That is something that Iowa has. I go through it with both of my kids' dads. Even though I went to court with both of them, they still called in CSR to do the dirty work of how much they were to pay in child support. I know that in Iowa you can start a case without having to use a lawyer and it may not cost as much. They can run a SS# check and see if he is paying into taxes anywhere, then you would know if he had a job and wasn't telling. I don't know how long that would take since mine went through the court system with everything else. Maybe you have something else similar to it in NY??

Also have you thought that it may be the psycho that is paying his way for the cars and stuff? If she is maybe she will eventually get tired of supporting him and his family if you are able to get some sort of support.