I remember not so long ago you asking me to never stop posting to you, so I will. I always have, even when others stopped. I’ll respond to what you said.
I’m not surprised at your wife’s response to you having marks on your neck and gallivanting around with your OW. It’s a taste of her own medicine and it doesn’t taste sweet.
You said the way I put it was “silly” in reference to you saying that your wife withheld information about her physical being. I’d like to know what part was silly. I reread it, and I find nothing silly about what I said. You said you could say that you are married……what does that mean????!!!! You ARE married. I agree that you don’t live as H and W. You are both having affairs. Are you saying two wrongs make a right?
I’m sorry, H4her, but you say that you don’t live as H and W and her moving out changed everything and all that, but then you say that not divorcing her is your way to leave the door open. In my opinion, THAT’S silly. And, stop saying that I want you to divorce her quickly. That’s absurd. I am encouraging you to stop having an affair and work on the marriage, or divorce her. You are trying to have both worlds.
Because of MY faith, my tone is bugging you? What happened to YOUR faith? You used to talk to me as someone that ministered to you and you understood because you knew the love of God. I may sound unintentionally preachy but if I have I have only done so because I care about you, and I thought you had the same faith base and I wanted to be there for you. I never looked down on you like you say I have. I have always been here for you. If it weren’t for some of my friends on DB giving me 2x4s, I would never be where I am now. I saw what they said as help, and I took it. We have talked endlessly about our faith. Look to your past posts. Somewhere along the line, you have lost your faith. "What happens, happens? What will be, will be?" What is all that about? You said you are living with a purpose? What is that purpose? It may not be the “right” way, but you can look at yourself in the mirror? I don’t even know what to say about all that. You don’t like me reminding you about your wrongdoings…of course not…no one likes to hear that they are doing something wrong. But, I’m not going to say what you are doing is right, just as you would have never said my affair was right. People do this on DB all the time, and there are few people that know your whole story as I do.
You said, “I'm not the reason for the breakup of my marriage and family”. How can dating another woman NOT be a reason for breaking up a family? Because she did first? It’s ok because you are just having “fun” with this OW and she’s ok with “friends with benefits”?
You didn’t speak out of turn, Kat. Moving on and dating doesn’t send the message that you love your wife and want to save your marriage. Not at all.
