Hi DBers, I've been lurking a while and thought I'd provide a short update. Recap: Me (40) Hus (45) Married 20yrs. S:19, S:16, D:13 Normal, church-going family, with regular ups/downs, no 3rd parties. Attended Retrouvaille in '97 and '08. Hx of depression (me) Hx of emotional abuse (H) Left once in May of '07 for 4 weeks, but returned for the kids. Contemplated leaving last summer, when medical sitch (H) spiralled into crisis. Walked in October '08, filed for D, got apartment and took kids with me.
Update: I took a break from the board. Needed to sort things out. In February, the strain on maintaining two households was hurting everyone, so I moved back home. For now, the D is dropped, I can always file later if need be. Here's what I learned: I made many decisions out of Fear. I spent a lot of time living for what might happen, could happen, or what should have happened. I have a tendancy to be co-dependent. While spending time working on the M is good, not much will be accomplished until I get my own act together. I'll journal a while, feel free to read along if you've always wondered what goes on in the head of a WAW. Peace, Goldey
