WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[MrBond]

ADB,

I commend you for your DB-ing with your H. The difference between yours/my sitch and CIPA's is that there was an OP.

Like your H, my W's EA was with someone she worked with (her boss). So like you, I detached and have been able to get her in a mood where she's comfortable being home. And that's where the main difference is. He hasn't fully detached so his W can continue to blame him for her "hurt".

Your H, like my W, went out and blamed us for their problems because they had someone else to go running to. CIPA's doesn't, so she hasn't had that "introspection" period. And she won't get to that point until he shows that he's moving on like you did with your H.