Almost, I was telling Mach yesterday that I wish I could help all of you just beginning on this journey to skip all the steps and get to the letting it all go part. Really, I do.
As I said, its ok to be angry - its normal to be. But getting mired in it and going over and over it in your head is not going to change what happened.
My h went back to an ow from over 30 years ago who cheated on him back then with his best friend while living with h in his parents' house and who is/was now married. Now, there's a quality person you want to look up and get involved with again.
You cant get your mind around all this because it doesnt make sense. It just doesnt. Your h is lost and confused and is making poor choices.
He is unhappy and unsettled and cant put his finger on why. The easiest way out for him is to blame the person closest to him - you.
Yes, he did some things that sucked. Shame on him. But, as hard as this is to believe, this isnt about you. Really.
So, figure out what things about your marriage and yourself that you want to change. Take your anger and use it to propel you forward towards those changes.
If you stay stuck on this (and I know whereof I speak - I was stuck for a loongggg time), you dont get to move forward.
