Good. It does help. I know you might not see that right now, but it does. Slowly.
I got my husband's attention when he was going to his lawyer with this: I will contest on the grounds we did not seek professional help.
He wasn't worried until I'm pretty sure his lawyer told him what mine told me: The judge will find out there's a child in this relationship and will agree that professional counseling is needed.
So he said his lawyer did NOT tell him that but he did agree to the counseling. We compromised and are doing an at home marriage fitness program. I knew he would dig his heels real deep if I wanted to take him to a MC. So we're doing that. It's been HUGE for us. He still complains, calls him a scam artist, but he's doing it. (He seems to respect MWD a lot more, but unfortunately, she doesn't have an at home program like this and we couldn't afford the cost otherwise.)
But you are doing great. I know you might not see that or feel it, but you are.
