Slowly getting better?? - WAW advice still needed.

[Sam1007]

OK, feeling a little better today. Was just kinda overwhelmed with all the talking and thinking about my sitch yesterday....

I was reading some posts from a while ago and saw something that the MC told me also. The MC told me yesterday that W told her during her last session that she feels like she's "ruining" me. I can't remember how she said it exactly, but the message was that she wasn't good enough for me. The MC also said that she has some severe self-esteem issues, mentioning that W had told her that no one would ever see her naked again. I told MC that I think she looks great and that that has not been an issue for me and also that she was 20-30 lbs heavier than now when she accused me of "just being attracted to her because she lost weight" (over a year ago). I need to try to give her more WoA when she's with me. Lately I have been a little less giving in that sense. Yesterday, she told me that she's lost 8 lbs since 3 weeks ago, I told her she looked great and then she goes again like "I need to lose more though, I still don't look good". I gave her a little slap on the butt and said that her jeans look great on her. Maybe she just needs some validation on her looks to help with her self-esteem...

Anyway, back to what I was trying to say... Maybe she does believe that she's not good enough for me. When she calls me she keeps saying "sorry to bother you...", "I'll try not to bother you again.." and "Thanks for picking up the phone...". I told her I am not bothered by her phone calls. Was just thinking about this again and what DOES bother me is that she introduces me to teachers at the boys' school as "the twins dad", THAT does REALLY bother me! So I told her that she's not bothering me, that if I am busy and can't pick up, I won't pick up and if it's urgent, just leave me a voicemail and I'll call back later when I'm not busy.

So, in conclusion, if she really does feel like she's not good enough for me, then getting completely detached wouldn't really be helping anything, would it? I do need to change something though...