That quote is making me tear up! What an awesome quote. If I can stick it out and he comes out of it, I can see how things could be much better even than they were before EVENTUALLY - having him change as well for the better through all of this crap. I know I have. I am WAAAY more patient with everyone especially the kids, I finally have my priorities right, I have learned to be very independent, my faith is stronger than ever, etc. I can also tell it will take a very long time to be able to trust him again, even if/when he does come out of it.
His MLC symptoms - the spending (boatloads of new clothes), friends who are much younger (tho I am not sure how much they have been hanging out lately - seems less), dressing half his age, dying his hair (but he has stopped that - maybe a good sign? - it was so strange to me because he had always said he liked his little bit of gray - it made him feel distinguished), doesn't want to tell me anything (I guess the MLC control issue), the SELFISH behavior, etc. I don't think there is an OW at this point but of course I am not so stupid that I don't realize I could be wrong, especially as far as a possible EA or inappropriate "friendship" goes. I really don't think a PA though.
Fortunately for me, though, he has not become mean to the point he is yelling, calling me names, being mean to the kids (other than neglect), etc. Just the huge mean of being willing to turn his back on his family because he needs a new life. Whatever.
Day by day, I guess. If you can get them to go, does a C help someone in MLC or not? Do they just have to get to the point where they realize they need to "fix" themselves? He is def not ready for a C yet.
