Thanks for the input. I took 1/2h off to lunch with 2 (male, young and good-loking ) colleagues but I have to acknowledge that I was coming back in the elevator mentally counting my H's shirts and where could they be (his clothes used to misteriously disappear: he said he took them to the Salvation Army, and I learned later he was taking them to OW to wash -even clean underwear- because he had told her we were separated and in the process of divorcing. She still has quite a few in her house that my H has theoretically asked her for). He has lived a double life for nearly 5 years! He is a pro at lying. BTW, just imagine the poor stupid woman doing his laundry on clean clothes (and ironing them! ) for years!
But you all are right, it is a control issue. I do not deal well with what I cannot control. And it is not getting me anywhere to dwell on this. Easier said than done, again
But we are going to take our daughter ice skating this afternoon if I can finish work before 5! And he asked me a week in advance to take him to the airport tomorrow!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
) colleagues but I have to acknowledge that I was coming back in the elevator mentally counting my H's shirts and where could they be (his clothes used to misteriously disappear: he said he took them to the Salvation Army, and I learned later he was taking them to OW to wash -even clean underwear- because he had told her we were separated and in the process of divorcing. She still has quite a few in her house that my H has theoretically asked her for). He has lived a double life for nearly 5 years! He is a pro at lying. BTW, just imagine the poor stupid woman doing his laundry on clean clothes (and ironing them! 
) for years! 
