Ok, Jackie and Pam: here are the appropriate phrases in case you get lost abroad:
in Bonn,
Sprechen Sie Englisch?

in Paris,
Parle vous anglais?

in Madrid,
¿habla inglés?

in Rome,
¿parla inglese?

Sorry, I am just distracting my crazy mind, that has been screaming all morning. i do not know exactly why, but all my instincts are screaming today: 'There is something wrong' and I do not know what it is. My H has been a bit more quiet yesterday and today, and was quite impatient when I called him yesterday to ask if he'd go to the supermarket with me. And he only had two shirts to wash this week. And he has not brought the clothes from his office yet.

TELL ME TO STOP! I want to find that switch!

I keep repeating to myself the mantra: he is with me, he wants to be with me. And a little voice in my head repeats: he is comfortable with you, he wants to have his cake and eat it. Did it for 5 years... I hate that little voice!

Of course I just left a long post in Sage's thread, which helped. But still...

I should go and eat something.

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"