Thanks, DDay. I have tried to catch up on your own, similar sitch. These WAW's can really be maddening and scary, huh?
I have already curtailed any questionable content that my S's take under my care. xW is definitely still trying to dig up dirt against me -- anything and everything she can find.
I talked to S8 and got some clarification as to what xW might be thinking. I have allowed my S's to watch some shows on Hulu that I have closely monitored, but xW thinks these are from the Cartoon Network's Adult Swim programming. I am getting more and more upset that xW thinks nothing about grilling our S's about everything they do under my care, but if I ever ask them about what they do when they're with xW, -- however innocent my questions might be -- she interprets that as "interrogation" and prying into her business.
I am gathering that xW is really not interested in settling the legal dispute between us. She still is acting just as hostile as she ever has.
The latest tiff has to do with a Cub Scout event with S8's pack Friday night this week. xW has nagged me about whether S8 had any den meetings or other activities during this summer hiatus -- I told xW that I would inform her of any events when they came up. Fast forward to this past Monday, our pack sent out notices that we were going to meet for a night of bowling on Friday -- unfortunately, this coincides with the start of xW's custody week. I know all the folks in the pack, so I went ahead and RSVP'ed since I intended to visit with them even if xW decided that S8 could not go with me.
I relayed the event notice to xW and asked her, out of courtesy, whether I could go ahead and let S8 know about the event and to make sure she had no other plans for him that night.
Well, xW replied that she would take S8 herself, along with S4.
I hadn't expect that; except for a couple of other rare events, xW has shied away from any public event where I can be found. So I told xW I would see them all there then.
xW blew a gasket and said I was not allowed to show up where she's at, that I was not to interfere with her time with our S's, and again began to say she felt threatened by my presence ever since I started telling "lies" about her to everyone (apparently she's going to deny and deny and deny -- even if she were caught on video in full coitus with OM she'd still deny it.)
I basically told xW that she needs to grow up.
I see this as yet another activity that I share with one or both of my S's that xW wants to horn in on. Camping, canoeing, fishing, kayaking, swimming, and now scouting. In turn, she thinks I am trying to take away an extra evening from her during her week (funny, she tolerated the Monday Night den meetings I took S8 to even during her weeks.)
Frankly, I will not be intimidated by her into not participating in an event with people I know and am friends with. If she wants to thus deny S8 the opportunity to also participate in this activity, then she is harming him. Part of me wonders if I should give in for S8's sake, but then where would that appeasement ever stop? xW would not be satisfied until my very existence is wiped from the entire space-time continuum. No, I am drawing the line.
xW has claimed that she gets "nauseated" whenever she is around me now. Well, she'd better get used to it. I'm going to this event on Friday -- and if she doesn't like it, then tough! She needs to get over herself already.
