Changing Man

[Coach]

G-Man, You are doing fine. You need to show your wife how to forgive and what comapssion is. She has never sen this modeled for her IMO.

Upon returning, MC said (short version), she's reacting to what she thinks I said, what she thinks I did, what she thinks I meant. Reacting to trigger words and events like she reacted to E-abusive mother and P-abusive father.

I have to acknowledge her penchant for cutting people out of her life and shunning them when she's reached a cumulative/last straw amount of hurt (her first H, her M, Her F, one S. one or two acquaintances).

She is reacting to you like how she coped as a child, he can't hurt me if I am gone. She see's things as hopeless so this is how she copes, not healthy but it's what she knows. When she mind reads point it out to her. Let her know what you think, feel and believe.
Love languages - how did she love on you? That is probably hers.
You can handle it.
Cheers

ps Don't do what I say. Filter it, think about it and discern if it is valid for your sitch. Then apply it as you see fit to the best of your ability.