You are doing a lot better than you were a year and a half ago, don't you think? You are a strong woman, with a lot to offer the world. Don't let him hold you back!
VH...I've deleted before....then acted like I didn't get it when he asked me..
I would rather not hear his voice if at all possible...that shakes me up...Id rather not talk to him at all right now... I need to get my ducks in a row first...then I can stand up to him with my head held high....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Sry had to come vent....so I don't go off on H....
H took our son yesterday at noon...overnight....I had asked him to take him the weekend but....well....you all know how that goes...
I expected to get him back this evening sometime and H texts me at noon and asks when he can drop him off because S12 wanted to play with his friend....
I answered, "whenever".....
I was not home when he dropped him off...so when I got home I asked son, who was in the same clothes as yesterday....why he wanted to come home so early to play with his friend...and he said, "I never said that....dad just brought me home"....I just said, Oh, I thought you wanted to play with friend...
OMG>...I was so flippin mad....he couldn't even keep his son for more than 24 hours....wow.....unbelievable....last time he had him was 3 weeks ago.....he's a jerk.....lie, lie, lie....tired of it....
Why do they do this so much? I mean lie to get rid of your child for the rest of the day...probably to be w OW>...OMG...
Thanks for letting me vent....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
You are trying to spin rational logic on something that isn't rational at this time. You are "expecting" him to be a certain way and he isn't, or should I say, hasn't matured to the level of wanting to be a parent. Your h is still a man/child and can't accept the responsibility that goes along w/it. He enjoyed the short period of time w/your son, but it got to be too much for him, so he brought him back home.
I'm not making excuses for the man, but he can't handle being the "dad" for even 24 hours. It's a difficult task to put on that mask and keep it there for that period of time. As for the ow, I don't think so.....the "something" he needed to do was dealing w/is depression.
Yes, you are angry, but you need to remember, he's not the man you knew years ago. This is someone new and different, therefore your expections have to be at zero at all times. Your son's playmate is only 15 and hasn't reached full adulthood just yet. If and when he does grow up, that's when more time will be spent w/his son, etc.
Vent away...
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Well....I did it....I made the call....I will see an attorney on Tues to learn my rights....
Im scared, sad, you name it....but I have to do it...if my marriage is over....I need to take care of my children....
This whole ordeal is eating me alive....it's time to move forward....and turn the tables....so I'm in control....
Any advice for me when I go to the attorney???
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Treese, Sit down and make a list of the questions that you may have. The reason that I'm suggesting this is because you will surely forget them once you are in the lawyer's office.
Breathe!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
(((((Treese))))) I know it hurts, but I am glad you are doing this.
I expect the attorney is going to ask you a lot of questions, and they may be a bit uncomfortable. Don't hold back on your answers to protect you H, or even yourself. The better the information the lawyer has, the better the job they can do.
