Over the Shock and GALing 6

[Coach]

And the exclamations are so consistent and so frequent that this has to be the But with my C's help today, I think I see it a bit more clearly. From my W's point of view, I called the shots through most of our M. It was my job, my career that moved us around, my (louder and more strongly stated) opinions that got heard, etc. Regardless of how I see the past and my view on what happened, she feels like she didn't have a say. She feels her opinions and beliefs and desires were not respected and valued. She feels that our married life was about me, and not about her.



So at least this helps me understand where the outbursts are coming from.

HUGE! This is a significant place for you to be at. Good on you for asking the question of yourself and looking for the answer honestly.

I wonder when and how you could communicate this revelation to Mrs. Thinker.

Cheers ~~~~

"Sorry you feel that way" try "I think I understand why you feel that way. Do you feel ________ because I do _____________?" Apologise, validate and let her know you see how she could feel that way. It is so important that we are heard and seen.
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