Unstoppable

[dday101798]

NCB,

Wow, this sounds all too familiar. XW would tell me all the time she wanted to this "civily" and above the standard agreememnt. And everytime I laxed up on issues, BAM! A new surprise 5 minutes before going in front of the judge to deal with.

Your X may have some kindness of heart and actually mean what she says, but, her L certainly does not. My XW always blamed the mudslinging on her L, but yet, where did the "evidence" come from?

Unless there is anything that would depict you as an unfit parent on FB, I wouldn't lose sleep over it.

I will say, monitor what your boys watch and video games they play. That helped me alot, mine weere always begging to play games that I feel in any situation are not suitable for their ages, and yes, XW let's them watch 'adult swim' I certainly do not.

As far as the her moving with OM, ohhhh brother, all too familiar. XW proclaimed the moment the D was done she was moving 2 hours away to the middle of nowhere. I was bound and determined to deter this. Thus, certain 'inconveniences' were instilled in the settlement. If she moved more than 30 miles, all transportation to and from visitation is her responsibility. I get a say-so in the academic evaluation of any school she decides to enroll them in, extra-curricular activity and living situation. Thus thwarting that.

Hindsight 20/20, my XW now see's that even tho she "had her way" and has residential custody and support, what it has done to me as a father and is starting to put some truth to the 'best intentions' she proclaimed prior to the D as I'm now a 72 hour a month parent, down 45% of my income so I can't even have my 3 summer weeks with my boys and need another if not 2 other jobs just to try and get my head above water.

Oh, and back to the FB thing, I strongly believe my XW was reading my posts here, as we would not speak for weeks on end for a while and everytime I would post something nice about her, I'd miraculously be contacted by her, food for thought.