Other than not saying, "sorry you feel that way (like a crack whore)", I don't think it was that bad. You could have avoiding tipping your hand about opening account, yada yada, just so she doesn't drain the account first, but water under the bridge. I know it looks sucky, but to me this feels like a woman trying to change the dynamic. You know that not comforting her wasn't the straw that broke the camel's back and either was moving back into the bed. She's trying to hit the right button...maybe seeing if you are still on the hook. I think her tune will change if your patient.

What is different about your bedroom? Is the computer in there? Are there things that she does at night that now she can't...like chat with OM? It's just so weird. If the computer is in there, I'd put a keylogger on it.

You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer