Thanks KAW. I know I should not jump to conclusions but it is not easy. At least I managed to get to the BB before I talked to him, and checking the board for answers has helped me not call him screaming.
I suspect that H is not going to mention it if even he looks at the mail (which he seldom does). That is usually his way of dealing with threating stuff: he either denies or ignores. I may have to bring it up, somehow. And, about the name, OW had told me she had suspected him of having other romantic involvements (which could be a bunch of sh** designed to make me even madder, I know).
I FEEL I NEED A BRAIN TRANSPLANT!!!!....
I hate rollercoasters!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"