i think you should prepare yourself to find out that she is still in contact with the OM or is planning to and will soon. probably while you are at work.
SteveMcQueen's law: when you feel you are 100% sure; you are blind to what is really going on in her head.
i also think you should find something to do with your boys several nights a week. go to the diamond and play baseball, get out of the house and toss the football and get them ice cream and come home late. find a family orientated taekwondo program and take them there several times a week. occupy them and your mind. The BS you are going through is going to affect them more than you can ever imagine. IS affecting them. if you get to caught up in the dealings with your wife you may not notice them withdrawing or overlook their behavior changes. Strength and Honor as Mules writes.
