I have a feeling you lot are all BB'ed out after a long day.
Going to have to go with the advice offered so far.
Lines of communication wide open. Ask how she's doing. Ask questions slowly and quietly. Listen. Validate. Don't try any form of justification/no defending actions. Don't try to pre-judge. Don't pre-think every possible (or any!) answers. Don't jump to conclusions. Show myself off in the best light. No high expectations. Expect the worst - it may just be better than that. Don't give up.
Oh, added another - seeing that she's choosing to return to our home for the chat, make sure it's as comfortable and welcoming as possible.
