Hi Opt and a belated welcome to piecing and what a first week it has been for you here! I had nearly complete my first post to you on my "coffee" break when the IT dept. booted me off to install some new software. So let's see if I can recreate it...

I had actually printed out this thread and only had time to read it late last nite after everyone went to sleep. I had a couple of remarks about the past couple of days, but I see you posted this morning so let me go directly to your current dilemma...

Try to prevent your mind with running away with all the possible scenarios of what this piece of mail is about. It really is counterproductive because chances are it will take you in the wrong direction. If the name Jacob is on there and there is no reference to OW other than the address he once resided at, then it most likely has nothing to do with her. It just only be about a piece of real estate H was consider as an investment. If its a credit, it might be something he decided back out of...

The point is not to take it personally ... its probable that it something that has nothing to do with you or OW.

So say nothing ... give a chance at making the first move ... when he comes home and looks at the mail, he may offer an explanation that would dissolve your fears without any prompting ... would that be better than firing the first volley?

Sorry to rush thru this but I wanted to post this before losing it again.

'til later,
KAW