What did you have in mind for the shake up? The move? StepS lived with us (met W when he was 2) until 2 yrs ago, then lived with his dad for 2 yrs and is moving back for this upcoming school year. He sort of floats around and stays with me, then with W, mostly trying to avoid the twins... we do have fun the two of us tho!
Thanks for pointing out the rescuing... I really 'didn't see it that way until you pointed it out. It's just that it's something new. She's never really asked for my help with anything. I volunteered help early on in the sitch, but that has stopped long time ago. Now she's requesting help, and although I am not jumping in the car to go help her with anything, I realize now that I am too available.
As far as doing something w/o the kids: for the first few months of S, we would go out every Sat night, then less often, then even less often, then only occasionally, but every time I was the one organizing it and I got tired of it, so I stopped organizing it and so now nothing happens...
I am just getting tired of all this sh!t.... tired of thinking about it... the reason I wan't on the boards was that I was busy with other stuff... The MC asked me what I was thinking is holding her back from coming home, and I said I think she's not having that desire for intimacy that she thinks she needs to be able to live in the same house. Other than that, I think everything is there, but WTF do I know!??
