desperately hoping to save marriage

[cville22901]

Changedforgood:
In a lot of ways, I went through some similar things during my first divorce. I was married to a doctor, and I was teacher so there was a ginormous disparity in our incomes. I was a Mr. Mom, and I spent a lot of time with the kids. She got frustrated with my inability to communciate, and she went off the reservation with a fellow doctor. The only reasoning why I am telling you any of this is because I spent six months living in the same house, sleeping in the same bed, begging for her forgiveness for my shortcomings, losing too much weight, not getting enough sleep, and I went into a suicidal tailspin. I lost all sense of self worth.

Please do not let that happen to you. Never lose sight of the fact that you have two kids. They need you. I almost took a father away from my children, and it was the worst thing that I have ever done.

You are somebody who cares about other people, so you are not worthless. Even if your wife continues to bail, you will always be a father to your kids. Stay in their lives. My kids are all in their twenties now, but we are extremely close. They are the best thing that I ever did. If you can raise your kids to be healthy and happy, it will be the most important thing that you ever achieve.

I hope that you can tackle one challenge at a time mentally with the job, the divorce, and the living situation. They are all, occurring at once, so it will be difficult, and it may be overwhelming. It's a cliche, but it will get better with time. Don't let her treat you like a pinata.