My greatest fear was my relatives/friends finding out about my EA. However, she seems to be ready to go public with this if she's going to go meet him and talking so frank about it. What do you think? Do the two of you have a couple who are your best and dearest friends?
Sandi,
Although my W can speak frankly to me at times about OM, she is relatively discreet in her contacts with him. In fact she has made comments to me that suggest that she would be very discrete about meeting him in person (assuming they eventually do). Furthermore, back in March when she was at the height of her "addiction" she mentioned that she saw herself going out on the sly with OM for some time before introducing him to our kids. (This was part of her earlier fantasy of permanently relocating to her home state with my kids to be with OM before I informed her she couldn't legally do that.)
The impression I've had is that while my W seems to be genuinely "crazy" about OM, I don't think she assigns a lot of pride in being seen with him, at least people whom she respects. This was true when she went out with him 20 years ago before meeting me- she never introduced him to her family despite supposedly going out with him off/on for 1 1/2 years. On the other hand, she introduced me to her family soon after we started going out and has never had a problem feeling proud to be on my arm. As a matter of fact, I asked my W not to long ago if she would feel proud to hang on to OM arm if they were to get together- she didn't respond. Your thoughts?
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
