Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
x has now openned up the "new" girl into my daughters life and of course is doing the standard "oh I want you to meet her.." and all the garbage that goes with it. Since the divorce i had to deal with the pain of the bimbo bitch. it hurt. hurt like knowone should have to hurt .. i dont want to ever hurt like that again.
now there is the latest girlfriend. whom i am sure is probably a nice person. even bimbo bitch was nice. This is #4 I think...but only #2 on the scale of bringing her around my daughter. he even talked about bringing her to one of d12's performances this summer. Ok i am NOT ready for that..
so now he wants d12 to meet her. d12 comes home and we were both kinda distant..and then she started talking. it usually takes about 30 minutes for her ot open up after being with him -- and this time she cried because he has another girlfriend. she said he didn't deserve to have someone..wished i did. she wished that i had someone to be with... she said that she wants me to find someone and get married first..... (it isn't what she REALLY wants but she was saying she wants for me to be happy).
both of my kids are there. want for me to be happy and loved. and here i am... still alone. still thinking about him (though it is changing) and still healing. when will my heart heal? this is ridiculous!! i feel like such an idiot!!
i know what i dont want. i dont want to be one of those women that are still pining over "him" 10 years from now. i want to grow, i want to love and i want to BE LOVED. Why does he get that yet again? a liar, a cheat, a sneak, an adulterer. it hurts and right now today -- i really feel like it just isn't fair!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I keep asking myself "how much longer am I gonna feel this way?"
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
i hear u, I got the first bomb in 2005....but in myu defense was strung along until june of 2006 with maybe we will be ok...i just need some space..( which was the typical-- I have someone else space..but I wont admit it but we both know it)....we had major crisis in our family...and I have such a strong belief in family and marriage...so it for me is more about the commitment to marriage that pains me and what I wanted for my boys and for H i did want to make my H happy...but that man he is now...not even the same man.....so I dont miss him....but who I used to know...even though he wasnt perfect either he sure did seem to love his family....
well....we just have to keep moving forward..growing..surenndering our H to God.....
gosh I dont know what to tell u the OW thing is so painful.....and basically hes on number 4....well....who knows these guys are wacked...i held onto the affair wouldnt last more than 18 months static which is now well over 4 years...although the very sercret for a very long time...so who knows..we must remember this ISNT ABOUT US....ITS REALLY HARD TO REMEMBER THAT..WHEN YOU START THINKING...
bless your daughters heart...let her know that God know all our hurts and we can go to him......Let her know that healing is a process....and its good not to have another someone and just be....heal and grow.... your doing good...hes lost and shallow...its just our path has more pain.....but its got to pay off in the end...I am sure of that...hold tight and keep looking up
I'm sorry. Your daughter is seeing all the dysfunction in your ex. Love her and nurture her during this time. I am here to tell you that all of this will work in your favor. It will all come around in time. If it was meant for you to find another love you will. You will be happy again. You do not need ex or another man to make you happy though.
I feel horrible that you are going through this. The OW #4 will like the rest see through your ex and bolt. They cannot attract healthy relationships right now.
Trusting....
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I agree with trusting our xh can not have healthy R right now I have read that to have a good R, a person has to feel good about themselves, be whole already I do not see these MLCers as whole, more a train wreck they might attract women who enjoy trying to fix a man, control aman change them,,I dont think in the long run any healthy women would want them 2 halves dont manke a whole peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
