[quote]i let her suck me back into this drama. i was doing so good the last 5 days. she's not coming home and we're not getting back together. thinking otherwise is stupidity on my part.
Yes. You most certainly did let her suck you back into the drama.
You can't afford many backslides like this. As long as you let her anger control you, then YES, you are doomed. You can save this by following the script. Don't veer off the script.
The following quote is the whole key to her mindset...
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W then called 10 minutes later. lol
It is almost always the one in pursuit mode that makes that one last call back, that one last thig they needed to say. You had her moving in the right direction. If you would have stood your ground and not got caught up in this, she would continue to chase you.
I warned you that you needed a DEFAULT LINE.. Remember what it was? "I was just_________ (fill in the excuse) I will talk to you later and I can't talk right now. Or I am on the other line and I have to go. Don't let this woman talk to you this way. It shows that you don't respect yourself. Women need to respect you to feel love. MAKE her respect you. You didn''t trust the plan. You caved because she swore at you and was angry. (which was your proof that this was working for you) Anger is the child's way of showing respect. She was testing you. You caved somewhat. (not totally, but somewhat)
Get back on the plan... When a woman is as angry as she came across, then you know you are on the RIGHT path... When they get angry because you HAVE SHOWN YOU LET GO, then all is good.
Don't let this get turned around. It is YOU who shouldn't be sure of what you want. It is YOU who should be saying those things to her (of course not in anger)
My oh my... So much anger and jealousy over one little forgotten date (which originally she said was to be Tuesday OR Wednesday, and suddenly after you dissed her, it was written in stone. LOL)
Don't call.. Get back up and continue on the plan. DO NOT blow it again. Go back and read Pearl H again. She went through the same types of things. He kept trying to get the upper hand. She was furious at him (notice that she still loved him though, so don't get caught up in what she says when angry. This is all because you are moving away emotionally. (which you SHOULD BE DOING)
