Thanks for getting back to me on that. I'm sorry to hear where you are at with your R with your W. I'd really like to see my W's OM kill the EA once and for all- everyone but my W understands that he's got other women he is stringing along, most of whom are either younger and/or far more accessible. I'm not holding my breath just yet though- OM is a selfish bastard relying on my W and other women to boost his ego/self esteem- no matter what the cost to anyone else. And of course my W is oblivious to all of it.
I sure hope my sitch doesn't develop like yours has as my W has already told me (and apparently OM) that it doesn't matter if they (she and OM) get together or not, our M is done. I could see things possibly going in that direction given that from my W's perspective the OM has "raised the bar" (totally unrealistically) with regards to an "ideal" R. (Not that my W and I can't eventually have an OUTSTANDING M -but in the real world it takes work.)
So given where you are at now, any ideas on how you will proceed from here? As mentioned in my prior post, my C is of the opinion that my W ought to eventually move out on her own, presumably as a sort of reality check amongst other reasons. BTW, has your W done any serious due diligence regarding the consequences of D that you are aware of? Despite all her affirmations of wanting to (eventually) D, my W hasn't done a damn thing in this regard. I know of course that would be part of rational thinking on the part of our almost-WAWs, but just curious.
M: 41 W: 39 S: 11 S: 10 D: 4 1st contact w/OM: 1/19/09 EA began: 2/14/09 EA discovered: 3/1/09 I file for D 8/25/09 to protect myself _______________________________
