Let's see......"dropping the rope". So many LBH's have a big problem understanding exactly what that is and I don't know that I can explain it to your satisfaction. To me, it is all about a final decision. It is "attitude". You have to make up your mind once and for all that you are turning her lose and moving on. Now......how is that different from the "detaching" that we always talk about? Dropping the Rope...."is" detaching, but it is a one time decision....or a final decision (I should say) to put down that emotional tie you have with her and let her go. Can you see that image in your mind? There you stand with a short rope tied around her waist and you are pulling and holding as tight as you can so she won't budge from your side. She, on the other hand, is struggling to get away from you, so she's pulling also. The two forces that are pulling "AGAINST" each other is causing so much friction that there is no chance of peace! Talk about stress!
So, what would happen if you dropped that rope? Can't you see that picture in your mind? I bet she is straining against your hold so hard that she'd nearly fall on her face when you let go. That's the point. At least, part of the point. First, she would be shocked. Can you imagine the look on her face when she nearly falls from you suddenly dropping that rope and she begins to stumble? Then it's like she isn't sure what to do. Should she leave? Does she really want to, now? She keeps looking back at you to see what you are going to do about that rope! But, you aren't paying any attention to the rope. You are busy looking at life instead of the rope! It seems as if.....no wait.....YOU ARE actually living your life without her. Does that mean you will move on without her??? Wait, wait,,,,,,she starts trying to get your attention b/c she's decided that she doesn't want to leave after all.
Now, in all reality, there is always the possiblity that she will take off running the minute you drop the rope and she sees she is free! That is why this technique cannot be a gimmick hoping it will draw her back to you. It must be done strickly for your sake and b/c you cannot continue to live like this any longer.
What is the difference in dropping the rope and getting a D? If you decide that you will move on with life without a chance of her ever being a part of it.....then get a D. Plain as that. However, if you can move on with your life without her in it....but would consider rethinking her being in it if she was willing to make radical changes and not have any other interests in men or dating, etc........."then" you would be willing to include her in that life.....but ONLY if she was willing to work at the M and give up these other WAW ideas.
