Puppy - Help !

[lowneil]

I believe that she was truly in love with OM (or what she thought was love). She told me he made her feel smart, worthwile, etc.

But, I also believe that it is over and there has been no contact. OM's wife's best friend is a friend of my brothers. If the OM's wife finds out...everyone in my family and lots of friends will know too. I don't think that is the only reason there has been no contact, but I am pretty certain that this think is over.

My wife is mourning the loss of that relationship now.

My wife said that she disconnected from the marriage about 18 months ago, but has been too afraid of her financial insecurity to leave.

She told me tonight again that she is done. She is talking about ... "when we divorce" not if.

She asked her Mom who is a paralegal for referrals to divorce attorneys.

I am not sure if she will file for divorce or not. Should I start taking steps to protect myself financially...like opening a separate checking account and having my direct deposits go in there, retain an attorney, or anything else.

Or just keep going along and see what happens?