Yep, another WAW - in last resort

[lonelywolf]

No, no lawyer yet. Can't really afford one, but I'm sure I'll have to get one at some point. Since, legally, she can't even file until mid-September (and even then the court can't make a final decision for another 60 days), I have a bit to wait and see if I really need one.

Clergydude told me lawyers aren't much good unless you're going to fight for full custody, since the no-fault laws in the state are pretty liberal. You can delay the divorce a little, but you can't stop it if the spouse wants out.

Frankly, I may want visitation, but I have to admit that, living with her parents, my kids are financially taken care of, so I doubt I will fight for custody. I love my kids, but honestly, they'll be taken care of if they stay with her and her parents, whereas my situation is currently unknown. Perhaps if I have a solid job by September, I'll fight for more rights. I'll just have to see. Right now, its so fresh and new that I'm a little unsure what to do. For now, I'm making only what contact is absolutely necessary, and taking care of myself. If I can pay off all the debt by the end of the season, I'll be in a much better place, regardless of what my wife decides. Plus, that'll free up more income to take care of our kids.