You've sure moved a lot! you got me way beat, I've been at the same place for over 30 years.
I always felt I supported my H in all the things he wanted to do, heck I could even prove it! Everyone said so too! Then H comes along and says I never supported him at all! I was hurt and flabbergasted. But, the issue wasn't really what I did or did not do - it was how H perceived it. There is the difference.
In your list of reads I hope you included 5LL, Stop Blaming Start Loving, Benefits of Staying Married.
I hope I didn't offend too much with a different perspective. I am often accused of not being normal.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.