Trying to cope with H, IA/EA (was Newbie-1st post)

[Faith2010]

Thanks for the list Sandi. It was perfect timing cause I was about to break some of them rules! Good thing I read it.

H called twice this am then 2 text messages. H had a question about the dogs. Second text asked why I wouldn't answer the phone or text. H said it was really annoying. I answered the question about the dogs with a yes and nothing more.

H was not home when I got here. H is working his 2nd job. We had gone over the 'boundaries' for this job and I had previously told him if he was going to be later than 3, he needed to let me know (due to this is his day off and he should be watching S). I'll have to reinforce that boundary tonight.

S called me this morning, saying H came into his room to say he was leaving for his 2nd job. S asked H when was the last time he worked 2nd job. H said it's been over 2 weeks. S asked H why he was going to 2nd job on the first day S was back home. H got upset, threw his hands in the air and said "I can't win in this family!" H left without another word to S (no 'I love you', no 'goodbye'). How do I handle? Am I nit-picking if I bring it up? I already discussed with H his inability to spend time with S. Obviously H is too self-involved to worry about anything besides himself.