O.k. sorry to break up the hijacking convention Just kidding feel free!!!
Pre-planning conversation here.
So in reference to the credit card issues. If I brought to her an actionable solution to the credit card problem and she says: I thought I told you that you should get your own credit card and we would split the debt in half when we get a D. In your best DBing understanding what would the response be?
I thought I told you that you should get your own credit card and we would split the debt in half when we get a D.
Did she already tell you this?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Credit Card debt issue. I am going to look into options on how to handle this side of things.
We last spoke of D on Sunday. She brought it up three times last week.
The first time July 3rd she asked if I wanted to go on a family trip to first for the weekend. I said yeah sure let's go. Then she told me later that night that she went to go see a D attorney and that she thinks that we should go through mediation because we are so amicable with each other and not fighting. I told her I was sorry to hear that and I that I don't believe in D and that I would and could not stop her if that is what she wanted to do.
She kept going with the talk and I just listened. I got a little upset (I was trying so hard) and she said that she should have full custody of the children. THIS IS WHERE I THINK I MESSED UP (maybe not though). I told her that from what I understand that custody is 50%. She then mentioned that I seem weird when I talk to her and that the things I say are strange. She said that your body position was strange when I was talking with her. (I was sitting in a chair leaning towards her actively listening).
I asked her about her feelings at this point and she said she felt she needed to do this to feel "whole." We didn't say anything else and she said, "I'm going to bed are you coming up with me?" I said, "No I'll be up in a little while."
The next morning she completely freaked and said that was the most awful night she's had. She said she was scared of the way I was acting???? She said can we still go on the trip. I said yeah let's go. Everything seemed weird that whole weekend. She wanted to go to the fireworks show, she wanted to go to the amusement park, etc. etc.
The next time she brought it up was in MC. Where at the end of the session we both dismissed the MC counselor as trying to bait both of us into saying things.
The last time she brought it up was Sunday at a kid's birthday party that our D's went to. where she talked about that the family their was really segmented. Divorced parents and grandparents and kids all living together in harmony. I took a firm stand and said. I told you how I feel about that and I don't believe in it. She backed off and said, "Oh I wasn't exactly talking about us." After that just joking around, etc. I would have thought she would have been pouting or dissapointed, but she didn't show it if she was.
Just kidding feel free!!!