Yay!!!!! Finally a new thread.

[AlexEN]

You will continue to feel out of control until you start taking action for yourself. Put your needs first, yes ahead of your H's and the kids. You can't do good for your kids if you are a heap on the floor.
Make a list, prioritise and get busy. Work is a verb (action word.) Love is a verb. Help is a verb.
The pressure will alleviate when you start getting busy. Now GO! I tell my players to "FLY!" when I want them to bust it.

AliveandKicking, FLY!

Or get back on that horse you were talking about a few posts up... Use that image, a flying horse, (I keep picturing the red one on the Mobil signs) as a thought-stopping image when you start feeling out-of-control and as a trigger to do just as @Coach says!

...I can only control me so back on the horse, aaaagain.