i am not showing anything. the S agreement has been done, yet she has not approached me about signing it other than the time the mediator e-mailed it out to us. couldn't coordinate times (i am not taking off work again for that). the question is my outloud voice. however not too long ago (been S for about 3 months)if i said something like that to her, her retort is, "it sounds like that is what you want." thanks for letting me vent. better on a server somewhere than near her or in an e-mail!!