More fodder for my mental grindmill (or is it a windmill?): I just called him to the office to ask if he wanted to have lunch with me. OW answered the phone (as always). I was nice and friendly (ugh ) and asked to be put through. The call accidentally fell through. I called back and this time she put me through.

My H sounded harsh and upset; the conversation went like this:
H: what's up?
M: (upbeat) Just called to see if you want to come to lunch with me
H: (very harshly) I don't know, I have to get out of here in a little while. I will call you when I do.
M: (friendly but concerned) OK. Is something wrong?
H: (impatient) What is wrong with you?
M: (sweet) Nothing, you just sounded upset
H: (dry) No, I just want to get out of here soon. Bye
M: (firm)OK. Good bye (I hang up)

So now I think she was listening and he wanted to make her think things are bad between us. I have to add that she does not speak our language, so when we talk to each other on the phone all she can understand is his gestures and the tone of his voice. Am I making a mountain out of a molehill?

"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little" Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"