My kids acted out on my behalf many times. There was one incident where they snuck into the neighbor's garage and urinated in his workboots while my W and him were laying out by his pool after we just talked about divorce. I told them that I really appreciated the gesture - that I knew they were doing it for me to get back at him - but that is not the way I would handle things - that is more the way HE would handle things. Eventually we were able to laugh about that. . . .I remember last Columbus Day when the neighbor tried to bait me. I was playing football in the backyard with my boys and he drives up to his his and gets out and says "Oh I can play football with my boys, but I can't keep my W happy" then he mumbled some profanities so my kids could hear them. I wanted to beat the guy to death. Believe me, I'm in pretty good shape - it wouldn't have been difficult. But I had grab onto something. That's when I told the kids about Strength and Honor. I have heard my 8 year old use it, and use it properly.
Man, that really MOVED me, Mules. THAT is what it's all about, isn't it???
This as well:
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I constantly told my self Strength and Honor. All the time - Sometimes 10-15x a day. In the process you are teaching your children a valuable lesson on how to deal with adversity. I can tell you that I have heard from all three of my boys about the manner in which I handled myself. They do see it. You may not realize it, but they do.
EVERYONE who is fighting this good fight needs to read this post!!!
