The only thing I would add is to be more specific and even blunt w/your reasons for his ruining your love for him.
You may have done this, but by what you reported, I read it and asked myself: "Why didn't she tell him right there that his devotion to work over family is what has made her fall out of love w/him. He loves and cares more about his jobs than he does his family and when he is with Kalni, he has absolutely ZERO romance in mind."
To me, it needs to be stated and stated bluntly, clearly and without any room for "guessing" or "misunderstanding." If you think you've done it, his replies still seem like he's not getting it.
Maybe this could help to serve as John mentioned as something he can do to measure his progress by the 25th.
Maybe you should just say, look-- I worried sick about my dad and worn out waiting for you to get off the pot. I desperately need your love and support.
I told him most of the things you suggested, I used phrases that were too harsh to explain. He was not agreebale that I am his 34th priority as I told him. Whatever. I will be Ok guys, really.
Andabelle, thanks for stopping by. He knows I am worried sick about my sweet sweet wonderful dad. He loves him too and is worried as well. That's why he hugged me on Friday and was sweet. And that's why I feel he still could do it, turn it around, because I immediately felt my heart soften... Too bad I cant lean on him and cant be his baby anymore... K
Thanks for stopping by Kalni. I gave an explanation of sorts as to what I was talking about on my thread. I know you are worried about your Dad and silly romantic me thinks it could be a good thing that you did feel your heart soften if only for a moment.
Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Since my dad died, emotions come stronger.. or perhaps are less restricted. I feel angry about what ex did, is doing. Before I only felt hurt and lost. The loss a loved one rips open all emotional wounds. Your spouse is the easiest one to direct your anger toward.
I'm not saying what you're doing is right or wrong, just that the volume may be pumped up by the anxiety and fear for your father's declining health. Truths bubble up, awareness can become crystal clear or clouded, feeling powerless, helpless is overwhelming.
Do you emotionally need him now? Ask him to be there for you. This is a bridge you can both cross.. and truly discover what's on the other side.
I booked the 4 days away on Paros today. Leaving next Thu morning (23/7)with my GF and coming back on Sunday noon. H called this morning and said a) he is paying b) he is coming on Friday, he managed to get Friday off after that huge fight we had the day before yestreday wich started because my son asked him to come with us and he said he was busy working and that really set me off. So, I guess, my anger worked? Dont know...
I cant wait to just lay on the beach and do...nothing. K
